This happens to me at the gym.
Me: “Hello, How is your day?”
Me: “Do you come here often?”
Them: “Nope, not really.”
After that, I left. Regular interaction, right?
Nope, it wasn’t.
Off in the distance, I hear someone say, “that was awkward.” My lack of social awareness brought me to that situation.
I was so focused on the interaction that I didn’t even notice the person’s subtle signals they were sending to me. I was forcing the conversation.
I felt embarrassed for a little bit.
He was clearly showing me that he didn’t want to talk to me.Let me show you a way, so this doesn’t happen to you.
👀💬Conversation Social Awareness
During the conversation, there were dead giveaways that the person wasn’t into it. Didn’t want to talk to me.
If I had been more aware of it, this wouldn’t have happened to me.
Signs That Show Lack Of Interest:
❌They Distanced Themselves –
During an interaction, they will slowly distance themselves. People distance themselves when they don’t like you.
If you are in a small space and they can’t distance themselves.
They will usually lean away from you or create a barrier between you and them to create that distance.
❌Close Off Body Language-
This should be an obvious one; you should always be aware of it during the interaction.
Crossing their arms
Avoid eye contact
Not facing you
Most of the time, they will give you a one-worded answer. This will be a dead giveaway, and move on.
❌Lack of Effort To Participate In the Conversation-
You will feel this during the conversation. You will hear it in their response. Their tone of voice will be bland, like they don’t want to talk to you or don’t want to be there.
It will feel like you are forcing the conversation to continue, even though it should have ended a while back.
❌Don’t Ask You Any Questions-
People who aren’t interested in you will avoid asking you any questions. So the conversation could end and continue with their life.
😀People Who Will More Interested In Talking To You
Some of the best interactions you will have are with people who make eye contact and smile at you.
So approach them and start a conversation with them.
They will be more willing to have an interaction with you.
😖Avoiding Social Awkwardness
Everybody dreads it when you are starting or during a conversation, causing an awkward conversation and making the other person feel uncomfortable.
Here are a few pointers that can help you out.
❎Don’t Force The Conversation:
Like the situation, I had in the gym. I was forcing the conversation, and I was unaware of it causing an awkward situation.
Let the conversation flow naturally if the person doesn’t want to talk to move and meet someone else.
❎Focus in the Present Moment:
When you start thinking about what you will say or how this person will feel or respond, issues will arise, the conversation won’t feel natural, and the other person will feel it.
Make sure to listen to them during the conversation. Especially to their tone of voice. Do they sound interested or disinterested when they talk to you?
When you listen, not only will the person feel that you are interested in them, making them like you more. This will allow some ways to continue the conversation.
Beware of the person in front of you. They will be sending you subtle signals on how the conversation is going.
It will allow you to fix the conversation or leave the discussion at the right time to avoid having an awkward situation.
Social Awkwardness is something that can easily be avoided. Take in this information and apply it to your everyday interactions.
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