Talking to people is one thing but sincerely connecting with someone else is something else.
Have you ever had a one-sided conversation with someone and felt that they didn’t care?
Let’s avoid that from happening to you again or you causing someone to feel that way.
Connecting With People
As Theodore Roosevelt said, “It’s not how much you know, it’s about how much you care ”.
So be genuinely interested in them and what they have to say.
People want to feel good and valuable.
What is rapport?
Rapport is the connection and mutual trust you have with someone.
Who to approach?
When you are approaching someone; You got to be aware of the body language signals they are sending to you. You don’t want to waste your time on people who lack interest in you.
People who lack interest in you from the start won’t make eye contact and smile at you.
Only approach people who make eye contact and smile at you.
They will welcome your approach and be more interested in you.
Compared to someone who has a close-off posture.
Make sure to display this body language when approaching someone.
Body language signs of friendliness:
A head tilt shows that you’re not a threat to them.
An eyebrow flash shows greeting and interest.
A smile shows that you’re happy and approachable.
When you apply this body language, you will feel better; people will find it attractive. People want to talk to and hang out with someone who is positive and makes them feel good.
Building Rapport In A Conversation
People love talking about themselves; when you allow them to talk, they would feel appreciated.
When they feel that you care about them, they would like you more because of that.
Tools That Enhance Building Rapport:
What is Isopraxism?
Mirroring the other person’s behavior.
If they cross their arm, you cross your arms.
They lean in, you lean in.
During a conversation, make sure to mirror the other person’s body language because we like people who are similar to us.
What is the Law of Similarity?
We like people who are similar to us and pursue the same things as us.
I recommend going to places you like. This will allow you to easily find common ground with people there.
So look for common ground when you are talking to them. This is the fastest way to build rapport with anyone.
However, there are some things you should avoid. When you are trying to bond with someone.
Talking about yourself:
Have you ever had conversations with someone who keeps on talking about themselves?
Then you know that feeling.
Nobody likes someone who is self-absorbed.
During a conversation, don’t interrupt the person who is talking.
That will ruin that person’s train of thought and make them want to avoid you.
Not listening to them:
How can you have a conversation if you can’t listen to what they are saying?
In through one ear, out the other.
So, make sure to actively listen during the conversation. Not only will the person feel that you are interested in them. This will help you to find ways to continue the conversation and build more rapport.
Building rapport with someone is an essential skill everyone has to have. So go practice.
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