Overcoming The Fear Of Talking To Strangers

Talking to strangers can feel very daunting.

When the first thing that pops into your head 🤦‍♂️:

🚫 “They seem busy; I don’t want to disturb them.”

🚫 “I’m going to look awkward.”

🚫 “I don’t know what to say.”

🚫 “What if they don’t say anything to me?”

However, this doesn’t have to be your situation.

🧍‍♂️ Talking To Strangers

I recommend going to places you like 🚵‍♂️.

This will allow you to build rapport quickly.

You are approaching that stranger. Make eye contact and smile 😀.  Use opinion openers because people love to share their thoughts about anything.

(Read more about approaching strangers.

📌 Opinion Openers Example:

💭 “Hey, do you know where I can eat some great food?”

💭 “Hello, does this look good?”

💭 “What is your favorite movie?”

However, if you feel afraid to use an opinion opener. Just use a simple “Hello, how’s your day?” or “Hey, how are you?”.

Sometimes you will meet people who act like you’re not there or don’t say anything.

Don’t let this affect you; go talk to someone else.

(Learn more about starting a conversation.)

😖 Still Fear Talking

When that feeling of self-doubt starts creeping in, focus on the present moment.

Use these techniques. The Stoics used it back in the day to deal with uncomfortable situations.

✅ Tell yourself this:

“This is nothing to me.”

✅ Downgrade the situation:

“So what if this happens; it’s not the end of the world.”

💬 The Conversation

During the conversation, I recommend finding common ground. The fastest way to build rapport with anyone is having common ground.

❓ Ask them about their accomplishments, stuff they enjoy, and interesting questions they would like to answer.

Be genuinely interested in them and what they got to say.

Treat them like an old friend you haven’t seen in a while.

(Read about becoming a great conversationalist.)


Talking to strangers will feel a lot easier. When you apply these techniques in your everyday life.

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